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It confirms what we already knew.

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Videos of child sex abuse, rape, footage from spy cams, “revenge porn” are shockingly common on the world’s biggest porn site, PornHub, according to a report this week by Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Nicholas Kristof in New York Times.

In his damning article, he recounts the struggle of Serena K. Fleite, who sent a naked video to a boy she had a crush on when she was 14. He shared it with friends, and someone posted it on PornHub. Her world imploded. Boys started demanding she send them videos and threatening to show her mum if she did not. She changed…

It would be an important way to acknowledge a painful and complicated experience.

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You know someone who has had a miscarriage.

They may never have spoken about it. Maybe they didn’t even miss a day off work. But someone you know has definitely mourned a baby that never walked the earth, and been forced to carry on as if nothing was wrong. Maybe that person was you.

One in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, defined as the loss of a fetus before 20 weeks of pregnancy. That’s a huge amount, especially when compared to how little we discuss miscarriage in our society.

The Afterlife of the Unborn

In Japan, to mourn a miscarriage parents will place Jizos, small…

So I phoned a lawyer.

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I had already guessed that he was a human slimeball because after having a huge argument with his girlfriend, he left her in their hotel room and came out to party with my friends, then spent the whole evening hitting on me. At the end of the night, we were in the hotel lobby having a drink, his girlfriend sleeping in a room above us — or maybe not sleeping, just lying awake waiting for him to return — he said he wanted to have sex, and got out his phone to book another hotel room, even as I told…

Actionable techniques to earn more, from today.

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One of the most important things I have learnt from being a freelancer is that it doesn’t help anyone, least of all yourself, to be coy about money matters. Exchanging information with others gives us more power to make smart financial and entrepreneurial decisions, to demand more money from potential clients and not waste time on work that will ultimately not be worth it. That’s why, after having my best month ever on Medium, I wanted to share a few of the tips and techniques I learned from it. …

The pros and cons of “financial abortions”

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Lauren Wells and Matt Dubay dated casually for a few months. By the time she found out she was pregnant, they had already broken up. He wanted her to have an abortion, she didn’t and decided to keep the baby. He refused to pay child support, forcing her to turn to the authorities.

Dubay v. Wells: “The Male Equivalent of Roe V. Wade”

The resulting legal battle became a major milestone in men’s reproductive rights, with some comparing it to the men’s equivalent of Roe vs. Wade. In court, then 25-year-old Dubay presented the argument that in the case of an unplanned pregnancy, men should have a right to opt-out…

Hello, 1950s? It’s Paris calling.

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In a brutal return to a time when husbands had a legal right over their wives’ bodies, a French court found a woman to be solely at fault in her divorce from her husband in 2019 on the grounds of her refusing sex. The Cour de Cassation, one of France’s four courts of last appeal, said it constituted a “serious and repeated violation of the obligations of marriage, making the maintenance of a shared life intolerable” for him. The plaintiff’s lawyer, Lilia Mhissen, described the ruling as a “miscarriage of justice” and “completely archaic and medieval.” “I think it’s completely…

Using speech therapy soundboards, it appears that doggos are mastering the art of human communication.

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Stella the dog can talk, or at least, that is how it seems on her Instagram feed. Her favourite words are, predictably, outside, food, and pets. To say them, she presses down on a soundboard, a floor mat of buttons each of which emits a different pre-recorded word. Stella, a chocolate-coloured Catahoula and blue heeler mix, is absolutely adorable and from the videos, appears to genuinely have learnt how to speak, or at least, how to use words to communicate her needs. She has wooed the internet, and now has 790k followers on Instagram. I came across her videos on…

Women constantly have to change their behavior and they are still getting killed. Maybe it’s time to focus on men instead.

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She was just walking home. Nine days later, her remains were found 50 miles away. A police officer has been charged with abducting and murdering her.

Sarah Everard was 33-years old and worked as a marketing executive. She had an entire life ahead of her. She had just started a new job and met a new boyfriend. She phoned him as she left her friend’s house and started the walk towards her home in Brixton, South London. Then she disappeared and was never again seen alive.

“She was sunshine and light, and made you feel warm and good and safe,”…

White people don’t want to talk about Anti-Asian racism

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The actress that played Cho Chang in the Harry Potter movies, 33-year-old Katie Leung said in a recent podcast that her publicists told her to deny that she was experiencing racist attacks while the movies were being filmed.

On websites for Harry Potter fans, also known as Potterheads people left cruel and racist messages about Leung, a Scottish actress who plays Hogwarts’ only character of Chinese origin. “I was googling myself at one point and I was on this website, which was kind of dedicated to the Harry Potter fandom. I remember reading all the comments. And yeah, it was…

Being silly makes you more creative, more resilient, and generally happier.

It has reached the point where you can’t make anything up about Elon Musk without it sounding like it might be true, British comedian Chris McCausland told BBC. When Musk tweeted earlier this month that there existed a new drug called Regretamine — “Pop one and all regrets are gone” — it got hundreds of thousands of likes and comments, with Twitters users torn between laughter and requests for pre-orders.

Regretamine was a joke, but coming from the man who fired a sports car into space, has repeatedly called to nuke Mars to heat up its surface, and named his…

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