Can we change our sexual fantasies?

And why should we?

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I once hooked up with a guy who wanted me to call him Daddy, and enjoyed role-playing scenarios of rape. At first, he didn’t tell me this, but I worked it out because it very much affected the way he had sex — he would want to spank me, be rough, pin me down. I’m into that stuff too — apart from the Daddy part because seriously where the fuck did that come from? — so it…