Why Some Women are Afraid of Touching Their Own Vagina
And what to do about it.
My friend Faye is very open about sex. When we go out for coffee, she talks loudly about her latest adventures, not caring about disparaging looks from neighbouring tables. She enjoys experimenting with toys, role play and locations. Yet there is one major hurdle she cannot overcome: she cannot touch herself. “I don’t know why, I just can’t bring myself to put a finger up there. I can put my finger up a guy’s bumhole no problem, but when it comes to my own vag, I just can’t do it.” For Faye, this is a real problem, because when she gets horny she would love to get herself off but isn’t able to. Some days at work she is so frustrated she goes into the back and just sits alone, unable to face customers, because she needs a wank.
Faye is not alone in being scared of her own vagina — it is a frequent problem for women. So frequent, in fact, that it has not one but two pretentious latin names — eurotophobia is one, and kolpophobia the other.
A quick reddit search brought up several discussions about this fear. One user wrote:
“So basically I have used a vibrator and have touched myself over my underwear, but never under it. I’ve read other reddit articles and people just say “it’s your body, own it” sort of thing, but for some reason I…
