Gender, sex and politics.

I want to live in a world where it doesn’t matter.

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My friend is kind and funny and intelligent. She has a good job and she is a caring and amazing family member and friend. I knew she was right: why should she have to be pretty? She is amazing already, in so many ways. And yet at the time, the idea was revolutionary. That a woman might be unconcerned at not being pretty was inconceivable in my mind — after all, that was the main criteria we were judged on in the ‘sexual marketplace’. …


The worry-free guide to starting from absolute scratch.

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This new landscape has the frustrating consequence of reinforcing social inequalities because when no one will pay you until you can prove your ability, that means that your first experiences have to be done for free. Kids from richer families can afford to do an unpaid summer internship and land their first byline, or volunteer at a local paper — those that are less well off will meanwhile be working full time to pay for their next semester. …


It may be the only solution to the unequal division of household chores.

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Still, each time I found myself living with boyfriends, I ended up being the one that cleaned — not because they were expressly unwilling to do it, but because I broke first. …


An essential skill for entrepreneurs, freelancers, and anyone who wants to move their career to the next level.

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Courage isn’t an innate quality but a learned skill

We tend to see courage as an innate personality trait — a quality that you have or don’t have, something a sorting hat could read in your brain and know whether or not you get put into Gryffindor. …


What I learnt from a month of trying different techniques.

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Am I supposed to be expressing my feelings or meditating until they evaporate? Should I be making compromises or setting boundaries? Should I be doing yoga for three hours a day or fitting a HIIT workout into my lunchtime? It seems to change every day, and a new miracle solution crops up every time someone is willing to pay.

I suffered from depression for several years, and I’ve tried all sorts of methods of self-care, all of which I found were not for me. Yoga makes me restless, meditating makes me panic at the prospect of being alone with my own thoughts, and every time such solutions fail for me, I feel a little bit worse. In the end, I settled for a solution I had always vowed to avoid: I took medication. SSRIs did rid me of my depression, but also made me feel as though my emotions had been leveled out, my joy was less ecstatic, and my pain was trapped inside me and unable to escape. …


Biden’s election doesn’t mean we can let our guard down.

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One thing is often forgotten by those that have liberal tendencies ideologically, but aren’t activists: the fact that this progress has never happened on its own. I often hear things like, “things are getting better,” or “look how far we’ve come” or “women will earn as much as men soon, just be patient,” but this sentiment completely negates the reality of the progress of the past decades: that every single step, however minute, has only happened because people fought tooth and nail for it. …


There is a growing tendency to disguise feminism in ‘girly’ niceness. We shouldn’t have to.

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I’ve been spending more time on social media recently and discovered loads of amazing feminist artists whose beautiful illustrations come with an explosive message.

There is Florence Given, best-selling author of Women Don’t Owe You Pretty — with her characteristic wonky cartoon characters, on pink backgrounds with punch-packing slogans written in a curly retro font.


And why it shouldn’t be.

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It’s a great question to ensure enthusiastic consent

There is a myth about sex, that you fall prey to when you are new to the world of intimacy, the myth that there is one right way to do things, a way of doing things sexily and saying things in an arousing way that will turn your man on. I thought that there were things I was supposed to want and things I shouldn’t voice out loud. It didn’t occur to me to be selfish and think about what I actually wanted — even when asked about my desire I was thinking about his. I thought it was a rhetorical question, or a request for dirty talk to turn him on, rather than a chance for me to say what I actually wanted. …


How the dominant class uses pseudo-science to reinforce oppressive stereotypes.

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It’s really not ok.

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“No I don’t,” he says. I make a noise of frustration. I forgot to bring any. This is a guy I’ve hooked up with a few times, usually he comes back to mine but this time we’re at his place and apparently, he didn’t think it through either.

“It’s ok, we don’t need to use one,” he tells me. …

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